BIBLE READING: Genesis 50

“When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “It may be that Joseph will hate us and pay us back for all the evil that we did to him.”” (Genesis 50.15)

Clearly, Joseph’s brothers still felt guilty for their choices towards him years ago. They knew they were wrong (Genesis 50.17) and that they were at the mercy of Joseph. He had voiced his pardon and provided for their needs (Genesis 45.1–47.12), but was it just a show for their father? In fear, they would not even stand before him to ask forgiveness (Genesis 50.16).

When Joseph received their message, he wept (Genesis 50.17b). His desire to be reconciled was obvious. But more importantly he knew his place before God. “Do not fear, for am I in the place of God?” (Genesis 50.19). Despite Joseph’s present power and leverage, he knew it was God’s place to judge. Their past choices had harmed him, but it was God who allowed these events to happen. He had obviously spent time reflecting on these events and God’s hand in it all. That not only convinced him of God’s power but convicted him to love and mercy.

We have walked in the shoes of both parties. When you’ve wronged someone, you can feel powerless. As Joseph’s brothers demonstrate, humility is the best path to reconciliation. Pretense and pride do nothing good for us. Conversely, when you’ve been wronged our natural tendency is often judgment and justice. We want people to get what they deserve. Even in our closest relationships this can play out in negative interactions where we leverage our position with past experiences. But this only leads to more conflict.

The only path forward is in the presence of God. We cannot fathom forgiving someone unless we recognize his priority. It is his place to judge, and he will perfectly. But he also allows negative circumstances to change and position people for a better future. So we need to get out of the way and soften our hearts towards others… because we all need forgiveness at some point.

Forgiveness is one of God’s greatest gifts of mercy. If he were to count iniquities, who could stand? (Psalm 130.4). The answer is NO ONE. We must be profoundly moved by God’s choices. If anyone had the right to withhold forgiveness it would be him. But the scriptures tell us this instead, “He has not dealt with us according to our sins or repaid us according to our iniquities (Psalm 103.10). Not only that but he is willing to completely remove our sins – as far as the east is from the west. God’s forgiveness is deliberate, and it is total.

Like Joseph, we must be moved by God’s mercy towards us. We must learn to accept his goodness comes in many forms as he provides opportunity to know him. Perhaps your situation is being orchestrated for you and others to have a better future. So, in humility and fear of God, let us forgive others as we have been forgiven. 

BIBLE READING: Genesis 42-45; Psalm 105.16-22

More than 20 years had passed since Joseph had seen his brothers. They did not recognize him, but he recognized them. As a flood of emotions filled his mind, Joseph treated his brothers harshly. (Genesis 42.9). He made wild accusations of them, adding fear to their already troubling situation (Genesis 42.14-17). Finally, he sent them home, but detained Simeon until they returned with Benjamin (42.19-20, 24). To complicate things, Joseph secretly had their money put back in their luggage. When they realized it was there, their hearts failed them (42.28). The whole circumstance was troubling, and they perceived God’s judgment on them for what they had done many years before (42.21-22, 28).

One could easily justify Joseph’s behavior, and really his brothers knew they didn’t ‘deserve’ mercy. However, as the story progressed, Joseph begins to change. On their next visit, he invited them to eat with him and gave them additional goods and money (Genesis 43.16; 44.1). Eventually he revealed his identity and wept with them (see Genesis 43.16, 30; 45.1-15). It is evident his change in demeanor was impacted by something profoundly Divine.   

“…I am Joseph, who you sold into Egypt. And now do not be distressed or angry with yourselves because you sold me here, for God sent me before you to preserve life.” (Genesis 45.4b-5).

This moment revealed the impact of God’s word on Joseph. From the moment his brothers showed up, Joseph remembered the dreams God had given him (Genesis 42.9). He didn’t decry his experiences but realized that God had allowed his circumstances for good. Perhaps forgiveness was not Joseph’s natural bend, but he learned compassion and mercy as he observed God’s bigger plan. Those years in prison both tested and established his faith in God’s purposes (Psalm 105.18-19), and in this moment of resolution it became clear that God’s words changed his heart to forgive.

The fact is, we must learn these things just like Joseph. We will all be affected by the selfish, mean-spirited choices of others. This can seem unfair and may even cause doubts about the goodness of God. That’s because our natural bend is towards self-preservation and vindictiveness. But just like Joseph, we must allow God’s words to temper our behavior. God’s prevailing nature is both mercy and love, and he profoundly shows that despite our bad choices (Romans 5.10). Furthermore, God promises that he is working all things together for good (Romans 8.28). In the moment none of that seems reasonable. But we must have a broader perspective and a strong dose of humility.

We can’t always see how things will play out. We may not see a path ahead for healing or restoration. We may even throw hope out the window and become cynical and negative. But some of that is simply our immaturity and pride. The passage of time and life experience often bring much needed clarity. More importantly, they allow us to see the critical truths about God’s plans and purposes that didn’t make sense at first. God will be faithful, and so we must continue to ground ourselves in what he has said, looking forward to being vessels of his glory.

BIBLE READING: Genesis 38

Joseph dominates the end of Genesis. His rise from slavery to become a powerful ruler in Egypt preserves the life of God’s chosen people and sets us up for the critical story of the Egyptian Exodus. But just after Joseph is sold, Genesis interrupts the story to tell us about his brother Judah’s personal life. It started innocently enough. He took a wife and had some kids (Genesis 38.2). He found a wife for his oldest (Genesis 38.6). But then the worldly influence kicked in. His son Er was wicked, and the Lord put him to death (Genesis 38.7). Judah did the honorable thing by giving Tamar to his next son Onan, but he was wicked and the Lord put him to death (Genesis 38.10). In his carnal frame of mind, Judah doesn’t understand what is going on, and treats Tamar as though she’s the problem. He refuses to do what the law said and give his youngest son to her, forcing Tamar into life as a widow (Genesis 38.11; Deuteronomy 25.5-11).

After a while, Judah goes “sheep shearing”, and makes a proposition to a prostitute (Genesis 38.12-19). However, unbeknownst to him, the prostitute is Tamar in disguise. Following their time together, she conceives, and we see Judah once again act based on ‘honor’. He calls for Tamar’s death, until he is confronted with the brutal reality: the child was his (Genesis 38.24-26).

This story is ugly… and yet this is the lineage of Christ, which Matthew specifically cites in his genealogy (Matthew 1.3). This interruption is instructive. It reminds us that God’s people aren’t immune to wicked behavior. Genesis 8.21 is still a present reality; and yet it doesn’t stop God from being faithful. In fact, this ugliness profoundly shows God’s redemptive ability. There is no circumstance too messy for God to work with. However, God’s grace and mercy expose those who are willing to accept it.

Judah made a lot of foolish choices. But in this moment, we see a contrast from his brothers. He doesn’t justify bad behavior. He doesn’t place the blame on somebody else. Instead, we see honesty about his sins. “she is more righteous than I, since I did not give her to my son…” (Genesis 38.26). I believe this was a turning point in his life. When we first met Judah, he was selling his brother into slavery (Genesis 37.26-27). At the end of Judah’s story, he was offering to sell himself into slavery to save the life of one of his brothers (Genesis 44.33-34). God sovereignly turned Judah’s sinful decisions into steps that would lead to the salvation of many people through Jesus Christ.

For Christians, we are promised a place in God’s plan of salvation—to shine the light of Christ out of our own imperfect, weak lives, just like Judah and Tamar. But we must be changed by the grace of his exposure and truth. We must not hide what God reveals to us and the world about our hearts. Instead we must remain humble, deal with reality, and give thanks for God’s mercy and grace to let us be vessels of his wonderful salvation.  

BIBLE READING: Genesis 34

Genesis 34 interrupts the narrative to remind us that sin is still a present force in the world. Shechem “saw” and “took” Dinah, using her to satisfy his own selfishness (Genesis 34.2). Apparently, this was ok in his culture. I mean, for someone to behave as he did and still be well-respected says something about the state of the world (34.19). The thoughts and intentions of human hearts are wicked continually (Genesis 8.22), and God’s promised people were not immune its effects. The proximity and interaction of Jacob with these people had opened the door for this horrific event.

However, Jacob has chosen to live here. Jacob tentatively promised to come to Esau in Seir (33.14), and God had commanded Jacob to return to the land of his kindred (31.3,13); but Jacob decided to settle his family in Succoth (33.17). This subtle act of disobedience and deception positioned his family among the Canaanites. There seemed to be an affinity for learning about and living among the people that attracted Jacob and his family (34.1). In fact, Jacob’s response to the whole incident implies he was more concerned with his status among these people than for the well-being of his family (34.21, 30).

Jacob positioned his family to both see and be seen by these godless people. This is a stark contrast to Abraham’s deliberate choice for Isaac NOT to marry the women of land or return there (Genesis 24.3-8). Abraham seemed to recognize the impact it would have on his life and faith. I’m not suggesting Jacob is to blame for Shechem’s actions. Nor am I suggesting that Dinah was at fault for what happened. Shechem’s wickedness were the result of his own choices. I am suggesting that perhaps Dinah shouldn’t have been in the land to begin with. If Jacob had obeyed God and followed through on his promise to Esau, he would have been in a much different place among much different people.

Throughout the OT we see God calling his people to be different and separate from other nations. He forbade intermarriage (Deuteronomy 7.3). He rejected sexual promiscuity (Leviticus 18). He even prohibited moving landmarks or selling property to other nations (Leviticus 25.23-34; Deuteronomy 19.14). This wasn’t because other nations were worse sinners than Israel. It was because God was trying to show how distinctly different his people should be. There is no gray area where human desires and God’s will collide. There is only holiness or there is wickedness.

We still live in a world of sin and selfishness. We cannot insulate ourselves from its effects, but we can choose how close we let it come. Perhaps having non-Christian friends or engaging in certain social activities seems harmless; but what doors is it opening in your heart and mind? How is it affecting your spiritual conviction? How is it positioning you and your family in relation to God. These are not irrelevant concerns. God directs us for good and for our protection. We must be diligent to maintain distinction and holiness as we walk with God.

“Friendship with the world is enmity with God” (James 4.4)

 BIBLE READING: Genesis 28-32

After 20 years working for his uncle, Jacob found himself in an uncomfortable position. He couldn’t return to Laban’s house, and he had no idea what was in store for him at his father’s house. At this crossroads, we see Jacob learning from his experiences with man and God. Over the last 20 years he had received a taste of his own medicine from Laban. But Jacob also perceived God’s hand in his prosperity (Genesis 31.42). Jacob had grown to trust and appreciate God’s direction. So, his choice to go home was an act of obedience (Genesis 31.13; [28.10-22]). That didn’t mean he was necessarily happy about it; but it did mean he was positioned to rely upon God.

When Jacob heard that Esau was coming towards him with 400 men and unknown intentions (Genesis 32.6), Jacob stopped to pray. He was afraid (32.7); but instead of letting that consume him, he filled his mind with God’s promises (32.9, 12). He realized God’s abundant grace towards him and his unworthiness to receive any of it (32.10); and yet God had given it to him because of His covenant faithfulness. It is upon this that Jacob makes his plea (Genesis 32.11-12).

Later that evening, Jacob found himself wrestling with a man (32.24). Jacob seemed to have the upper hand although the man knocked his hip out of place (32.25). As the man tried to leave, Jacob demanded a blessing, which is given by the man (32.26-27). But Jacob was not content. He pressed the man for his name but was denied (32.29). The man’s refusal was understood by Jacob as a Divine response in which Jacob was granted mercy and allowed to live (Genesis 32.30). He had ‘striven with God and with man, and prevailed’ (32.28); but he was not unchanged.

This moment was a turning point in Jacob’s life. His name and his walk were obviously different; but more profoundly his understanding was changed. He could strive with God, but he would not be the same. And that’s exactly what needed to happen for him to find peace with himself and others.

Like Jacob, we face difficult seasons as we live by faith. In our minds, we see a path forward, but it usually involves very little change on our part. When seasons persist and peace seems evasive, this can cause anxiety and fear. Perhaps we need to wrestle with God. It is not enough to simply tell God what you want. You must pound that against his promises and faithfulness. You must bend your wants and stretch your mind to see his purposes. You must realize that your way is not always the best way. It is powerful that God hears and helps those who trust him… but he does not change. The experiences we face, if tempered with time spent with God, will change our understanding and our desires. There is great peace in knowing that even though things will not always go according to plan, God works all things together for good.

"The mind of a person plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps." (Proverbs 16.9)